by Bella DePaulo | Apr 23, 2017 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, family, How We Live Now, Matrimania, Single parents

Relationships, love, family – these are all concepts that should be far-reaching and open-armed. Instead, they have been squeezed into narrow, stifling boxes. ‘Relationship’ is too often a shorthand for romantic relationship – what a shame! Same for love. ‘Family,’ too, has such great potential.
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by Bella DePaulo | Mar 3, 2017 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, family, How We Live Now, Single parents

If you are single and looking for a parenting partner, or if you already have a partner but do not yet have a child, here’s an opportunity to participate in a documentary series for a major cable network. First, some explanation of parenting partnerships.
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by Bella DePaulo | Feb 7, 2016 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, Divorce, family, How We Live Now, new ways of living, no kids, single at heart, Single men, Single parents, Single women

Who counts as single? There is more than one possible answer. Who counts as family if you are single and have no kids? What should we call adults who have no kids? Here are some discussions.
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by Bella DePaulo | Jul 15, 2015 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, Books about singles, Divorce, family, Single parents, Singlism and matrimania, What the research really shows (media myths)
I have been scrutinizing the research on single parents and their children for more than a decade. I’ve learned lots of things, but perhaps the most important one is this: all those predictions you hear about how the children of single parents are doomed are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong.
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by Bella DePaulo | Mar 4, 2015 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, family, Friendship, happiness, media, single at heart, Single men, Single parents, singlism, What the research really shows (media myths)

This page started out as a collection of critiques of studies of married vs. single people. I have now expanded it to include collections of writings on all sorts of topics about single life. Scroll down to see them.
Every time I learn about a new claim that getting married makes people happier or healthier or more connected or live longer (and all the rest), I go to the original research report to see what the findings really did say. The media — and sadly, many social scientists — routinely get it wrong. No, getting married does not cause you to become lastingly happier or healthier or better off in any way than if you stayed single (well, you do get more money because of all the laws and practices that benefit married people and discriminate against singles).
Here (below), you can find links to all my critiques of these studies. I’ll keep adding more as new claims hit the media that I need to debunk. I’ve also put together 2 books of my writings explaining why all those Marriage Wins claims are so wrong. Marriage vs. Single Life: How Science and the Media Got It So Wrong includes a chapter previously available only in an expensive edited volume, a new paper that is the most powerful and comprehensive explanation of what the research does and does not show about the implications of getting married, plus 39 other brief chapters (many from my blogs). Because I think that new powerful and comprehensive paper is so important, I have made it into a stand-alone book (together with an introduction) in The Science of Marriage: What We Know That Just Isn’t So. (Both are available both as paperbacks and as ebooks. You can read more about them here.) My first book, Singled Out, also includes discussions and explanations of what’s wrong with the claims of married people’s superiority.
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