by Bella DePaulo | Oct 7, 2019 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, blogs about single life, Perspectives on Single Life, single at heart
What it means to be single at heart
If you are “single at heart,” single life suits you. You are not single because you have “issues” or just haven’t found a partner yet. Instead, living single is a way for you to lead your most meaningful and authentic life. Even people who are not single may be single at heart.
If you see yourself as single at heart in many ways (even if not in all ways), I would love to hear more about your life, in your own words. You can click the link below to access the questionnaire, fill it out, and email it back to me. You may want to read the brief description of the questionnaire (beneath the link) first.
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by Bella DePaulo | Feb 7, 2016 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, Divorce, family, How We Live Now, new ways of living, no kids, single at heart, Single men, Single parents, Single women
Who counts as single? There is more than one possible answer. Who counts as family if you are single and have no kids? What should we call adults who have no kids? Here are some discussions.
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by Bella DePaulo | Mar 4, 2015 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, family, Friendship, happiness, media, single at heart, Single men, Single parents, singlism, What the research really shows (media myths)
This page started out as a collection of critiques of studies of married vs. single people. I have now expanded it to include collections of writings on all sorts of topics about single life. Scroll down to see them.
Every time I learn about a new claim that getting married makes people happier or healthier or more connected or live longer (and all the rest), I go to the original research report to see what the findings really did say. The media — and sadly, many social scientists — routinely get it wrong. No, getting married does not cause you to become lastingly happier or healthier or better off in any way than if you stayed single (well, you do get more money because of all the laws and practices that benefit married people and discriminate against singles).
Here (below), you can find links to all my critiques of these studies. I’ll keep adding more as new claims hit the media that I need to debunk. I’ve also put together 2 books of my writings explaining why all those Marriage Wins claims are so wrong. Marriage vs. Single Life: How Science and the Media Got It So Wrong includes a chapter previously available only in an expensive edited volume, a new paper that is the most powerful and comprehensive explanation of what the research does and does not show about the implications of getting married, plus 39 other brief chapters (many from my blogs). Because I think that new powerful and comprehensive paper is so important, I have made it into a stand-alone book (together with an introduction) in The Science of Marriage: What We Know That Just Isn’t So. (Both are available both as paperbacks and as ebooks. You can read more about them here.) My first book, Singled Out, also includes discussions and explanations of what’s wrong with the claims of married people’s superiority.
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by Bella DePaulo | Jul 7, 2013 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, alone time, demographics, family, Friendship, good places to live single, new ways of living, Single at different ages, single at heart, Single parents
Last January was when I first decided, with lots of input from my agent, on the theme of my new book project. It is about the many creative ways that we are living now that Americans are spending more years of their adult lives unmarried than married, and only about 20 percent of all households are comprised of mom, dad, and the kids. These are huge change from decades past. (See below for more on the theme of the book.)
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by Bella DePaulo | May 6, 2012 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, alone time, IT'S PERSONAL, new ways of living, single at heart
Seems like this “All things single” blog has been a bit neglected of late. Sorry about that. I have been happily busy with lots of things. I’m getting that new-ways-of-living project off the ground, doing all the interviews I can afford to do on my own dime in order to be able to write a compelling enough proposal to get a book contract. That means either interviewing people I can get to easily by train or car, or visiting friends who can put me up for free. If I do get a contract, then I will be less constrained by costs.
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