Being the Change We Single People Want to See: Guest Post by Jaclyn Geller

Being the Change We Single People Want to See: Guest Post by Jaclyn Geller

by | Oct 25, 2021 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, historical perspectives, Matrimania, Perspectives on Single Life, singles rights and advocacy, Singlism and matrimania

Photo by David Justice

Jaclyn Geller is guest-posting here to share her bold (and sometimes hilarious) Call to Action for single people who are tired of the pervasive unfairness that advantages married people and deeply disadvantages anyone who is not officially married. Geller, an English professor and author of Here Comes the Bride: Women, Weddings, and the Marriage Mystique, has long been at the cutting edge of thinking on matters of fairness for people who are not married. I have been hosting her guest posts since 2009.

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Single at Heart? Tell Me about Your Life in Your Own Words

Single at Heart? Tell Me about Your Life in Your Own Words

by | Oct 7, 2019 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, blogs about single life, Perspectives on Single Life, single at heart

What it means to be single at heart

If you are “single at heart,” single life suits you. You are not single because you have “issues” or just haven’t found a partner yet. Instead, living single is a way for you to lead your most meaningful and authentic life. Even people who are not single may be single at heart.

If you see yourself as single at heart in many ways (even if not in all ways), I would love to hear more about your life, in your own words. You can click the link below to access the questionnaire, fill it out, and email it back to me. You may want to read the brief description of the questionnaire (beneath the link) first.

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Singlism in the Navy: Guest Blogger Continues the Debate

by | Aug 30, 2014 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, family, Friendship, Perspectives on Single Life, Single men, singles in the military, singlism

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[Bella’s intro: In Singled Out, I wrote a section called “The Command Team Wears Wedding Bands,” in which I described instances of singlism (stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against singles) in the military. Retired Navy veteran Roger Morris read the book and got in touch, saying that although he agrees that there is some singlism in the Navy, he also thinks there are important ways in which the Navy is a pretty great place to be single. I invited him to share his views and he did so here and here. Then, just recently, another single sailor got in touch with me about his own experiences and views of singlism in the Navy. I invited him to share his perspective, and that’s what you can read in this post. He wishes not to be identified so I’m just calling him “guest blogger.” Thank-you, guest blogger!

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Single Woman in a Family of Married Women: Guest Post by Mary Edwards

by | Apr 14, 2012 | family, Matrimania, Perspectives on Single Life, Single women, singlism

Mary Edwards says: The women in my family are independent, successful and strong. Every single one of us has a very sarcastic humor and easy going look on life. My sisters and aunts are all married but living a very even partnered marriage. If any of them were to be left by their husbands, I believe they would bounce back into singledom just fine. So naturally, I was shocked when I learned how much my family was concerned about my single status recently. My jaw literally dropped when my aunt told me, ‘You aren’t getting any younger.’

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Yasmin Nair Asks Whether We Would Defend Limbaugh’s Targets if They Were Not “Good Girls”

by | Mar 7, 2012 | Perspectives on Single Life, singles rights and advocacy, singlism

Just after I posted Undeterred, Rush Limbaugh bashes another single woman, Yasmin Nair sent me a heads-up about her own post on the Rush stuff. It is long, so I’ll post the first few paragraphs here, then give you the link so you can read the rest of it at her site. Yasmin Nair, by the way, contributed that wonderful essay, “Singular Friendships,” to the Singlism book.

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