by Bella DePaulo | May 6, 2012 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, alone time, IT'S PERSONAL, new ways of living, single at heart

Seems like this “All things single” blog has been a bit neglected of late. Sorry about that. I have been happily busy with lots of things. I’m getting that new-ways-of-living project off the ground, doing all the interviews I can afford to do on my own dime in order to be able to write a compelling enough proposal to get a book contract. That means either interviewing people I can get to easily by train or car, or visiting friends who can put me up for free. If I do get a contract, then I will be less constrained by costs.
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by Bella DePaulo | Apr 3, 2012 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, Books about singles, good places to live single, IT'S PERSONAL

In January 2010, I wrote a post for my Living Single blog called Not going nuclear: So many ways to live and love. In it, I wondered about a fundamental question of our lives – how do we choose to live, now that we don’t all live in the sentimentalized nuclear family household comprised of mom, dad, and the kids – and no one else – all under one roof? How do different arrangements work out, with regard to fulfilling our needs and desires? How can each of us achieve just the right mix of time alone and time with others?
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by Bella DePaulo | Dec 21, 2011 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, international perspectives, IT'S PERSONAL

What can you possibly learn about a country from your first trip there that lasts just a few days? Maybe nothing representative, but I’ll share my observations anyway. I already posted about the professional experience over at Living Single, Single-at-Heart in Holland, so this is the more quirky stuff.
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by Bella DePaulo | Jul 4, 2011 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, alone time, family, Friendship, good places to live single, IT'S PERSONAL, Singlism and matrimania
Back during my East Coast days, there was a year when a colleague invited me to go to her daughter’s play on the 4th of July. I don’t like doing that sort of thing all the time, but I do enjoy kids’ performances occasionally, so that was fine. The play was around noon, so I figured we’d spend the rest of the day together.
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by Bella DePaulo | May 26, 2011 | ALL THINGS SINGLE, Books about singles, detecting bad intent, IT'S PERSONAL, LIARS AND THEIR LIES
Recently, I went to a talk here at UC Santa Barbara by a communications scholar who studies deception. When he got to one of the puzzling aspects of the available research on deception, he said that thinking about it kept him up at night.
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by Bella DePaulo | Mar 14, 2011 | Friendship, IT'S PERSONAL, What the research really shows (media myths)

I usually do not cross-post from my Living Single blog. Instead, I write different posts for Psychology Today and All Things Single, with the latter sometimes a bit more personal. In case there are people who read this blog but not my Living Single blog, I wanted to repost about Friendsight: What Friends Know that Others Don’t.
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