Jaclyn Geller is guest-posting here to share her bold (and sometimes hilarious) Call to Action for single people who are tired of the pervasive unfairness that advantages married people and deeply disadvantages anyone who is not officially married. Geller, an English professor and author of Here Comes the Bride: Women, Weddings, and the Marriage Mystique, has long been at the cutting edge of thinking on matters of fairness for people who are not married. I have been hosting her guest posts since 2009.
Heard that all single people have been crushed by the pandemic? Don’t believe it.
It seems like every major publication has featured some article pitying those single people whose lives have been ruined during the pandemic. I’m not unsympathetic – some single people really have been having a hard time, and their stories deserve to be told.
What I object to, vociferously, is the implication that their stories represent the only ways that single people experience the pandemic. In December 2020, I started inviting single people to share their pandemic experiences with me. Dozens have done so. I wrote about them in three articles, described below. I thank them again for sharing their stories.
On Saturday October 10, 2020, I will be giving the keynote address for the online conference, Singles Studies: Global Perspectives. You can read more about it here. If it is not yet Oct 10, you can register here. This is the text of my talk, so you can follow along or just read it when it is convenient.
I was invited to blog at Psych Central in 2011 and I have been writing the “Single at Heart” blog there ever since. I recently learned that Psych Central has been sold to Healthline, and Healthline has decided to kill all the blogs. Sometime after October 2020, everything I’ve written there will be taken offline. That’s about 1,000 posts.
Gender Differences in Living Single, Marrying, Divorcing, Remarrying, Bereavement, and Living Arrangements
Is it a his and hers world when it comes to marrying, living single, living alone, or living apart from a romantic partner? What about initiating divorce or getting married more than once? We now know, sometimes from studies of more than 100 nations, and sometimes from more than a century of data, that there are gender differences in all of these matters.
What’s so great about being single? What does it mean for single people, for families, communities, and society that the number of single people has been growing and growing for decades? Contrary to stereotypes, single life can be deeply fulfilling, and single people contribute to the strength and durability of our interpersonal ties and societies in ways that are finally getting recognized.