My TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” captures the true spirit of my work on single people, as I have pursued it for more than two decades. It is a joyful, unapologetic, myth-busting, affirming take on single life, based not just on my opinions or experiences, but scientific research.
Are you a scholar studying single people or single life? I would like to start a list and publish it on this blog here on my personal website, and maybe one of my other blogs (Psych Today or Psych Central).
For some people, relationship status changes again and again. They are single, then married, then single again. Or they transition in and out of committed romantic relationships, even if they do not marry. In contrast, we usually think of personality as something that is at least somewhat stable.
What it means to be single at heart
If you are “single at heart,” single life suits you. You are not single because you have “issues” or just haven’t found a partner yet. Instead, living single is a way for you to lead your most meaningful and authentic life. Even people who are not single may be single at heart.
If you see yourself as single at heart in many ways (even if not in all ways), I would love to hear more about your life, in your own words. You can click the link below to access the questionnaire, fill it out, and email it back to me. You may want to read the brief description of the questionnaire (beneath the link) first.