In writing about single life, one topic that comes up especially often is friendship. Below are links to some of my blog posts on (1) the importance of friendship; (2) whether single people get ditched when their friends marry; (3) making friends; (4) breaking up with friends; (5) how friendship is erased and distorted; and (6) other friendship themes.
I have also published a collection of my academic papers on friendship. It is called Friendsight: What Friends Know that Others Don’t.
(1) Importance of friendship
Friends are more important than we realized
People who choose to be single value friends more and people who value friends more become more committed to being single
Singles invest more in friends, then enjoy payoffs in self-esteem
Why friendship is the key relationship of the 21st century
The beautiful place of friendship in the lives of people who choose to be single
The new science of friendship
What makes friendship so special — especially now?
7 ways friends make us better and stronger
Worldwide, people are trending toward valuing friends relatively more, and family less
Success depends more on friendship skills than romantic ones
Finding “The One” Is Overrated: Emotionships Matter More
What friends know that others don’t
Step away from that spouse! Another take on the value of friends
What matters is whether you matter to others
19 ways to show you care about your friends
The meaning of ‘relationship’: Notes from a party
Families of choice are remaking America
(2) Do single people get ditched when their friends marry?
Ditched by a friend who got married: Can you relate?
Slighting friends and family: Do couples become less couple-y over time
Gain a romantic partner, lose 2 friends?
Singles or couples: Who has more confidants? More diverse confidants?
Is it OK to have a couples-only club?
Are you guilty of friend jealousy, or a victim of it?
Dating, moving in, and losing contact with friends?
(3) Making friends
How do you make friends when you are single?
7 ways to meet the locals and make friends — in your travels and in everyday life
Magical friendship-making moments
Finding a friend
Now we know whether Facebook is making us lonely
Are the early years of single life the hardest? Approaching age 30
(4) Breaking up with friends
Breaking up with friends: Can you empathize?
(5) How friendship is erased, devalued, and distorted
Deleting a friend to spotlight a spouse
Single and securely attached to friends
Sex and the City: The magic show
Did you recognize your friendship in ‘This Emotional Life’?
What’s not to like about a rave review? Missing the point of friendship and single life
What are friends for? Views from single and married life
The real mystery: Why don’t friendships get what they deserve?
(6) Other friendship themes
If you aren’t in a relationship, who is ‘your person’?
The Friendship Files: A inside look at the best of friends
Beyond marriage and babies: Milestones worth celebrating
Single people have more friends
Do you have a council of friends?
In Japan, can marriage be a hobby and friendship for real?
Reunited love – and I don’t mean the romantic kind!
Falling in and out of friendship
Friends and lovers: Is there a ‘knew it all along’ effect?
Men and women as friends – when one is gay or lesbian
Extraversion and the single person
Will mate-trimony make it fashionable to be single?
“Friendship in the time of love”
(Here are some best-friend messages from a partner.)
Friendsight: What friends know that others don’t