People who are “single at heart” live their best lives by living single. For them, single life is their most authentic, meaningful, and fulfilling life. They embrace single life for positive reasons, not because they have “issues.”

I have been writing about people who are single at heart since 2010. The concept got a big boost when it was mentioned prominently in the New York Times in 2013. People who are single at heart have now been mentioned in many places in the media and in scholarly writings.

Interested in whether you might be single at heart? Take this brief survey.

If you think you may be single at heart and you want to share more detailed stories about your life, this questionnaire asks lots of questions for you to answer in your own words. I originally created this questionnaire to learn about people who are single at heart, in much more depth, for the Single at Heart book I am writing. I have already written a lot of the book, so if you answer the questions on the questionnaire, I may not be able to include you in the book. But I am always interested in hearing your stories.

Some key characteristics of people who are single-at-heart

People who are single at heart: Here’s what we know about them

Are you single at heart?

Who does best at being single?

14 signs you are a confirmed bachelor (or bachelorette)

Maybe similar to single-at-heart

The Single at Heart and our cousins (quirkyalone, solitaries, self-partnered, consciously uncoupled)

“Single at heart”: Is it Quirkyalone’s naughty cousin?

Oblivious, complicit, and healthy loners

Some great things about being single-at-heart 

Why some people just love being single

People who are single at heart have been thriving during the pandemic

People who choose to be single value their friends more, have more satisfying social lives

14 ways to tell that someone is happily single

How to become your true self

Writing a script for “single at heart”

Single-at-heart in Holland

Some questions and issues

Commitment phobic, or is single life a better life for you?

Some people get all weird when you say you chose to be single. What’s up with that?

“No one really wants to be single”: 9 ways we are misled into believing that

The missing pieces: What we still need to know about people who are single at heart

Stop saying that being single is better than being in a bad relationship

Personal stories and examples of people who are single at heart

Why I’m single, then and now: Guest post by Joan DelFattore

Coming out as single-at-heart: Guest post by Psyngle

I’m better off single. You might be, too.

Single at heart in New Zealand – she is, her husband isn’t

Are these successful entrepreneurs single at heart?

This reader dreams of being single

Is she or isn’t she? Who is single at heart and why does it matter?

John Keats was single at heart and expressed it beautifully

Is Whoopi Goldberg “single-at-heart”?

Here are results from the first 1200 participants in the Single at Heart survey:

Preliminary results of the single at heart survey

What does it mean to be single at heart?







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