Older Single People: Here’s What We Know

According to the prevailing cultural narratives, single people in later life have two big things going against them: They are single and they are old. Now focus on the older single women and you have the trifecta: They are single, they are old, and they are women! If conventional wisdom got its way, they would be doing terribly. But guess what? They are not. There are real challenges, for women and men, to aging in an ageist and singlist society. Considering what they are up against, it is remarkable how well older single people are doing.


The Best of Single Life: A New Collection

cover, Best of Single Life

I’ve just put together a collection of 65 of my writings on single life in a book called The Best of Single Life. I think these are some of my most empowering articles, making a strong positive and utterly undefensive case for single life as the good life. In the book, I explain what I think is best about single life, for those who are as enthusiastic about living single as I am, as well as for those who do not want to stay single, but do want to live their single lives to the fullest while they are single.

The Best of Single Life is available in paperback here and here, and as an ebook here. The book includes 8 sections:

  1. Why Singles Are Thriving – Despite All You’ve Heard to the Contrary
  2. Single Life: We Chose It
  3. Mocking Those ‘Why Are You Single’ Lists
  4. The Good Life and the Successful Life
  5. Savoring Our Solitude: Choosing to Spend Time Alone
  6. Valuing Our Relationships: Choosing to Spend Time with Others
  7. Sex and the Single Person: Have It Your Way – or Just Skip It
  8. Are We Missing Out by Being Single – or Are They?

Here’s a sampling of some of the 65 articles in the collection:

  • 7 secrets of successful single people
  • Who wrote the book of love? Happy single people
  • Fear not: The advantages of people unafraid to be single
  • Are single people more resilient than everyone else?
  • Why aren’t married people any happier than singles? A Nobel Prize winner’s answer
  • Wedding porn doesn’t turn us on: Age at first marriage has never been higher
  • The last ‘why are you single’ list you will ever need
  • Elements of the good life: Our list is too short
  • Sweet solitude: The benefits it brings and the special strengths of the people who enjoy it
  • The happy loner
  • Best things about living alone – for people who mean it
  • Single, no children: Who’s your family?
  • If you are single, will you grow old alone? Results from 6 nations
  • Who keeps siblings together when they become adults?
  • Bigger, broader meanings of love and romance
  • Getting married and getting sex (or not)
  • Asexuals: Who are they and why are they important?
  • Are monogamous relationships really better?
  • 23 ways singles are better
  • What you miss by doing what everyone else does
  • Top 8 reasons not to marry
  • Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart
  • How many married people wish they were single?
  • The end of marriage

I hope you enjoy it! (You can find my other books here.)

The Single Person’s Guide to a Great and Happy Retirement: Guest Post by Blair Thomas

As a person completely enjoying the freedom of being single, retirement sounds like a blast. A little planning should go into it, so that the party that is coming down the tracks is absolutely worth the wait. So here are a few things to consider along the ride.

• Always plan for retirement no matter what time of the month it is.

• Take ten percent out of every check and put it away in a savings account.

• Once that ten percent has grown into some money, talk with your bank or your credit union and find ways to begin investing. See what plans they have that will work with your budget.

• Don’t make huge sacrifices along the way. Remember, not all of us make it to retirement, so remember to laugh and have fun as well.

• If your car is still holding together and you can make it a few more years with a repair here and there, don’t buy that new Ford F250 that you have been eyeing at the dealership down the road. Take a deep breath, make those cheaper repairs, and wait a few more years for your investments to grow a little more; as well as the savings account. You just might be able to pay more cash down, and keep the payments lower. Thereby saving yourself money in interest you would have paid.

• Despite the fact that your computer is ready to die, don’t always go for the newest in technology. It really hurts to not to, but it may save you a few dollars in the long run. But, if you can’t afford not to, go ahead and do it anyway. Weigh in all the benefits of either way before you jump to the purchase.

All in all

These few simple things might just get you where you want to be in retirement. Take the advice from your banker to heart, but always be cautious if it sounds too good to be true. Protect your money and it will be there when you need it.

But also remember to enjoy the trip. Life is full of surprises and you want to be the one smiling when it comes your way.

Home owner verses rental

Depending where you are in your life’s work, it should depend upon what you do with a house. If your job moves around a lot, you better just rent; and if you have been where you are for quite some time, it doesn’t hurt to invest in a home that you love.

You don’t have to have something huge, just something you are comfortable in. When the time comes for retirement, if the house is not paid off, you could potentially sell it for enough money so that you can pay off a nice home to retire in. Then you only have taxes and small repairs to worry about. As well as some home owner’s insurance. If you don’t have family to pass it to, then renting is probably the best thing. That way, you don’t have to worry about anything. You are not the owner.

So weigh the decisions heavily and figure out which ones will work the best for who you are. In the meantime, enjoy the heck out of things; you only get one trip through this life.

About the Author: Hi, I’m Blair Thomas the Co-founder of emerchantbroker.com and we’re the #1 offshore merchant account company in the US.  I have 10+ years of experience in the electronic payments industry, managing several registered ISO’s and successful agent offices. I work hard during the day and spend my time away from the office developing my music career as a singer songwriter signed to Old Scratch Records.

New Book Project Is On!

Last January was when I first decided, with lots of input from my agent, on the theme of my new book project. It is about the many creative ways that we are living now that Americans are spending more years of their adult lives unmarried than married, and only about 20 percent of all households are comprised of mom, dad, and the kids. These are huge change from decades past. (See below for more on the theme of the book.)


Single-at-Heart: What Do We Know about It?

Because of the prominent mention of people who are single-at-heart in the New York Times, I have been getting more inquiries than usual about what it means to be single-at-heart. Research on the concept is just beginning. Below are links to what I have written so far, and what I have learned from the first 1,200 people who took the single-at-heart survey.


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