I’ve been writing the Living Single blog at Psychology Today since March of 2008. Entries that were posted earlier tend to have more page views. With that in mind, here are the Top 20 posts about single life from that blog. (I wrote some posts on other topics that would have made this list but I’m not including them here.)
It is SO easy to make fun of psychology majors and people trained in psychology. There’s all the jargon of the academic researchers and the apparent obviousness of some of our findings. Then there’s the stereotype (and sometimes reality) of the touchy-feely clinicians. And it is not as if we typically walk into jobs paying the big bucks.
A funny thing happened, though, when I served on a university promotion and tenure committee many years ago. On this very high-powered committee of scholars from all different departments, evaluating the scholarship of academics from across the university, I felt proud of my training in psychology.
There are times when certain topics seem to be in the air, even with no obvious hook from the world of news or entertainment to hang them on. Lately, I’ve received a number of emails from people who don’t have children. Some don’t want kids and are annoyed when relatives or new acquaintances assume that they do. (Friends usually know better.) Other people have written to tell me that they would love to have kids, but don’t know if it will ever happen. Their issues are different from those of the people who don’t want kids.
This is the first post to the section of my blog on “Liars and their Lies.” I’ve been studying and writing about the social psychology of lying and detecting lies for decades. I’ve looked into a vast array of topics related to deception, including the lies people tell in their everyday lives, the more serious lies they tell to others and that others try to tell them, and the ways that people finesse the truth when a totally honest answer would be hurtful. I’ve tried to understand how ordinary people – people who care about honesty and have a sense of morality – can end up telling extraordinary lies.
I’m Bella DePaulo and this is the first post to the “All Things Single” section of my blog. Here I will talk about single life without pity or apology. Just about all aspects of single life are fair game, except dating. I have nothing against people who like to date or read about dating; I’m just challenging the myth that what singles want more than anything else is to become unsingle.