“Singlism” is the stereotyping, stigmatizing, marginalizing and discrimination against people who are single. “Matrimania” is the over-the-top hyping of marriage, weddings, and couplings. I coined those terms. Probably hundreds of the blog posts and other writings of mine touch on those topics in some way. So here, I just want to point you to a few articles to orient you to these topics and give you a few specific examples.
Congressional Representatives Least Likely to Support Trump’s Agenda Have Highest Proportion of Never-Married Constituents in Their Districts
One of the longstanding sources of frustration and disappointment among advocacy-oriented unmarried Americans is that political candidates rarely address us or promise to fight for us, the way they so often vow to stand up for married couples and traditional families. In their campaign materials, candidates who are married with children like to boast about that. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a candidate brag about not being married or not having kids, or even acknowledge their marital or parental status in their biographies, except perhaps for single mothers.
From the days when I first started reading the original journal articles claiming that marriage is beneficial to your health and well-being, I have been stunned by how flawed most of the studies are, methodologically. More and more laypersons are beginning to understand the problems with these cheater techniques. Professionals who have made a career out of claiming that Marriage Wins will probably be the last to acknowledge these very fundamental flaws.
Here, I want to share some of my critiques. I hope they will help you understand what’s wrong with the studies and the claims about the supposed health and happiness benefits of getting married. Ideally, once you read a few of these, you will know how to assess new studies and new claims, if you don’t already.
“My psychoanalyst said that he had never before had every one of his patients discuss national politics repeatedly, in session after session.” –Andrew Solomon, Preventable Tragedies
Over at Psych Today, I wrote a long, off-topic blog post on an amazing special issue of the Journal of Clinical Psychology on what Trump is doing to therapy. I know the word “unprecedented” is bandied about a little too often these days, but really, what is happening may well be unprecedented.