From the days when I first started reading the original journal articles claiming that marriage is beneficial to your health and well-being, I have been stunned by how flawed most of the studies are, methodologically. More and more laypersons are beginning to understand the problems with these cheater techniques. Professionals who have made a career out of claiming that Marriage Wins will probably be the last to acknowledge these very fundamental flaws.
Here, I want to share some of my critiques. I hope they will help you understand what’s wrong with the studies and the claims about the supposed health and happiness benefits of getting married. Ideally, once you read a few of these, you will know how to assess new studies and new claims, if you don’t already.
“My psychoanalyst said that he had never before had every one of his patients discuss national politics repeatedly, in session after session.” –Andrew Solomon, Preventable Tragedies
Over at Psych Today, I wrote a long, off-topic blog post on an amazing special issue of the Journal of Clinical Psychology on what Trump is doing to therapy. I know the word “unprecedented” is bandied about a little too often these days, but really, what is happening may well be unprecedented.
Every stereotype of single people bothers me, but this one is especially galling: if you are single, it is because you have “issues.” As if married people don’t have issues. As if single people cannot be mentally healthy and happy. But they can be, and usually they are. What’s more, if single people get married, chances are, they will become no happier and no healthier than they were when they were single.
Unmarried Equality members have probably noticed lots of ways in which single people are not treated fairly by businesses and other groups and organizations. Let’s do more than just rolling our eyes or venting among ourselves. Let’s call them out.