By Veronica Davis
[From Bella: During the pandemic, lots of people pitied people who were single, especially if they were living alone – even though many of them were doing fine. In this guest post, Veronica Davis describes some of the ways in which it was the couples who were having a hard time.]
During the pandemic and especially following the worldwide lockdowns, the rate of divorce began skyrocketing. Couples who had been together for years and even decades were filing for divorce at a much higher rate than before. The trend seemed to extend to all couples, with relationships ending all over the world after couples had been locked in their homes together for months.
The pandemic provided the perfect opportunity for marital problems to arise, as people were stuck at home with little to do. Even with lockdowns lifted today, the increase in people working from home and unresolved issues that arose during those times has left some relationships unrepairable.
Jaclyn Geller is guest-posting here to share her bold (and sometimes hilarious) Call to Action for single people who are tired of the pervasive unfairness that advantages married people and deeply disadvantages anyone who is not officially married. Geller, an English professor and author of Here Comes the Bride: Women, Weddings, and the Marriage Mystique, has long been at the cutting edge of thinking on matters of fairness for people who are not married. I have been hosting her guest posts since 2009.
Heard that all single people have been crushed by the pandemic? Don’t believe it.
It seems like every major publication has featured some article pitying those single people whose lives have been ruined during the pandemic. I’m not unsympathetic – some single people really have been having a hard time, and their stories deserve to be told.
What I object to, vociferously, is the implication that their stories represent the only ways that single people experience the pandemic. In December 2020, I started inviting single people to share their pandemic experiences with me. Dozens have done so. I wrote about them in three articles, described below. I thank them again for sharing their stories.