I have been reviewing books for Psych Central since 2015. Happily, many of them have been about single people, single life, or experiences particularly relevant to single life. Even better, each year seems to bring even more singles-relevant books than the year before. There are now so many that it seems worthwhile to assemble a list of them, and that’s what I’ve done here. I will continue to update this post as more reviews and discussions are published.

As you will see, I mostly avoid books about dating as well as books with a “poor me, I’m single” sort of message.

I’ve organized the books into 9 categories, beginning with the ones most directly relevant to single people and single life. There are links to my reviews of each of the books, except for some books that were published before I started writing reviews. For those books, I’ve included links to blog posts about them. For some books, I wrote a book review and published one or more relevant blog posts; the latter are included under “also see.”

#1 Books about Single People and Single Life

Happy Singlehood: The Rising Acceptance and Celebration of Solo Living, by Elyakim Kislev

Here’s my review.

Also see:

19 ways single people are doing way better than you realized

What makes single people happy?

The social lives of single people

What the right online community can do for you

Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions, by Briallen Hopper

Here’s my review.

Also see:

From “The One” to “the ones”: A beautiful personal story

What should you call the people who feel like family but aren’t?

Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own, by Kate Bolick

Here’s my review.

Also see:

10 fun facts about spinsters

50 shades of single

Spinster is the new black

Leftover in China: The Women Shaping the World’s Next Superpower, by Roseann Lake

Here’s my review.

Also see:

China’s “leftover women” and “shake and bake” husbands

Women who hid in empty graves to avoid marrying

The Art of Not Falling Apart, by Christina Patterson

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Insights and quips from “The Art of Not Falling Apart”

No One Tells You This, by Glynnis MacNicol

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Is there a script for your life if you choose to be single?

The Unexpected Joy of Being Single, by Catherine Gray

           Here’s my review.

Also see:

Are friendships psychologically healthier than romantic relationships?

Author of new book explains why not dating is better than dating

Retiring Solo: Plan to Be Happy, Healthy and Independent in the Years Ahead, by Lori Martinek

Here’s my review.

All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation, by Rebecca Traister

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Before “All the Single Ladies” there was “Singled Out”

How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate, by Jennifer L. Taitz

Here’s my review.

Also see:

What does it mean when married people feel sorry for single people?

Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person’s Guide to Nurturing Human Touch, by Epiphany Jordan

Here’s my review.

Splitopia: Dispatches from Today’s Good Divorce and How to Part Well, by Wendy Paris

Here’s my review.

Suddenly Single After 50: The Girlfriends’ Guide to Navigating Loss, Restoring Hope, and Rebuilding Your Life, by Barbara Ballinger and Margaret Crane

Here’s my review.

Also see:

If you have been single all your life, you have a lot to be proud of.

#2 Not Specifically, or Not Only, about Single Life, But Relevant to It

Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids, edited by Meghan Daum

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Choosing not to have kids: 16 writers bare their souls

Love, Inc.: Dating Apps, the Big White Wedding, and Chasing the Happily Neverafter, By Laurie Essig

Here’s my review.

Alone Time: Four Seasons, Four Cities, and the Pleasures of Solitude, by Stephanie Rosenbloom

Here’s my review.

Also see:

My Q and A with Stephanie Rosenbloom for the Washington Post

15 quotes for solitude lovers from the book, “Alone Time”

Text Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship, by Kayleen Schaefer

Here’s my review.

On Being 40 (ish), edited by Lindsey Mead

Here’s my review.

Also see:

How do you know that living single is right for you?

The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream, by Courtney E. Martin

Here’s my review.

Modern Families: Stories of Extraordinary Journeys to Kinship, by Joshua Gamson

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Our families: What’s missing?

Radically new families and how they are becoming more ordinary

The New “I Do”: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists, and Rebels, by Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson

Here’s my review.

Also see:

7 kinds of marriages – and one awesome alternative

What Love Is and What It Could Be, by Carrie Jenkins

Here’s my review.

Making the Big Move: How to Transform Relocation into a Creative Life Transition (3rd edition), by Cathy Goodwin

Here’s my review.

On Silver Wings: A Life Reconstructed, by Kristin Noreen

Here’s my review.

Also see:

Worried about dying alone? Read this story

Odd Woman and the City: A Memoir, by Vivian Gornick

Here’s my review.

The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories, by Marina Keegan

Here’s my review.

Also see:

What is the opposite of loneliness?

#3 Here are some singles-relevant books that were published before I started writing book reviews for Psych Central. I recommend all of them.

The New Single Woman, by Kay Trimberger

See:

Kay, Kate, and the single ladies, Part 1: Different experiences of single life across the generations

Kay, Kate, and the single ladies, Part 2: Experiments in living outside of a nuclear family household

Single women in India: A conversation with Kay Trimberger

Are these the 6 pillars of a satisfying single life?

Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, by Eric Klinenberg

See:

Living alone: 12 things you didn’t know

This book will change our lives

How going solo takes lonely out of being alone

Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto, by Anneli Rufus

See:

Why true loners are awesome – and why you thought they weren’t

The happy loner

Alone: The badass psychology of people who like being alone

Here Comes the Bride: Women, Weddings, and the Marriage Mystique, by Jaclyn Geller

See:

Meet a brilliant, fearless, and funny satirist of the marriage mystique

Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics, by Sasha Cagen

See:

“Single at heart”: Is it Quirkyalone’s naughty cousin?

It’s true: They are mad at you for choosing to be single

#4 I’ve written reviews of these books; they should be published in the next couple of months:

 

#5 I will be submitting reviews of these books in the near future:

No Thanks: Black, Female, and Living in the Martyr-Free Zone, by Keturah Kendrick

#6 I haven’t published formal reviews of these books, but I have written about them:

One: Valuing Single Life, by Clare Payne

See:

The double standards of single life

How to Be Alone, by Sara Maitland

See:

“How to Be Alone”: 14 quips and tips

Can anyone come to love being alone?

Solitude: A Return to the Self, by Anthony Storr

See:

Insights from the most renowned book on solitude

A Table for One: A Critical Reading of Singlehood, Gender, and Time, by Kinneret Lahad

See:

“A Table for One”: Singles scholar Kinneret Lahad tells us about her new book

Telling our personal stories: What we will – and will not – get out of it

Israeli scholar calls for the politicization of singlehood

Living Alone: Globalization, Identity and Belonging, by Lynn Jamieson and Roona Simpson

See:

Where in the world do people live alone?

How living alone will transform men

If Someone Says, “You Complete Me,” RUN!, by Whoopi Goldberg

See:

Why Whoopi Goldberg doesn’t want anyone to complete her

Essential Retirement Planning for Solo Agers, by Sara Zeff Geber

            See:

How adaptable are you? Find out here.

Single: Arguments for the Uncoupled, by Michael Cobb

See:

Who is the true avatar of the lonely crowd – the single person or the couple?

Have you been bullied into coupling?

Not against coupling but beyond it

It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single, by Sara Eckel

                See:

                About those 27 wrong reasons you are single

Live Alone and Like It, by Marjorie Hillis

See:

Advice to singles from an editor at Vogue – in 1936

My favorite book inscription — from 76 years ago

The Challenge of Being Single, by Marie Edwards

See:

A singles manifesto, from a pioneer

#7 Relevant to issues of activism, advocacy, and social justice

Should marriage be a ticket to privilege? Several dozen skeptics weigh in. (Relevant books are in Section II.)

Beyond (Straight and Gay) Marriage: Valuing All Families Under the Law, by Nancy Polikoff

See:

The marriage-promotion claim that is right – for all the wrong reasons

Has the Gay Movement Failed? By Martin Duberman

            See:

            Marriage equality: Was it too small a dream?

How homosexuality got kicked out of the official book of psychiatric illnesses

#8 Critiques of marriage

Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law, by Elizabeth Brake

            See:

Should marriage be abolished, minimized, or left alone?

A History of Marriage, by Elizabeth Abbott

            See:

Single life as a ‘satisfying choice and a profound threat’

The couple rises: Historian Elizabeth Abbott explains why

More Perfect Unions: The American Search for Marital Bliss, by Rebecca L. Davis

            See:

The American quest for bliss in marriage has a checkered past

On asking how to be married and not whether to be

Money problems have nothing to do with marital problems and other bad advice from the past

If marriage keeps changing, does that mean it has no real essence or value?

Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses, and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules, by Pamela Haag

            See:

            Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart

            Melancholy marriage: Are we in a post-romantic era?

#9 Finally, here are my own books about single life:

Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

Alone: The badass psychology of people who like being alone

Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It

The Best of Single Life

Single, No Children: Who Is Your Family?

Single Parents and Their Children: The Good News No One Ever Tells You

Single with Attitude: Not Your Typical Take on Health and Happiness, Love and Money, Marriage and Friendship

Marriage vs. Single Life: How Science and the Media Got It So Wrong

The Science of Marriage: What We Know That Just Isn’t So

How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century

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