Sex isn’t what it used to be. Or at least our thinking about it isn’t. That’s a very good thing. The 21st century has ushered in more expansive notions of sex, sexuality, and relationships, from a total lack of interest that is totally normal, to a healthy and consensual interest in non-monogamy – and much more. Here’s a collection of articles on these topics. Collections on other topics relevant to single life are here.
Some basics about what’s “normal”
What counts as normal?
Sex drive? There’s no such thing
Asexuality and aromanticism
ASEXUALS: Who are they and why are they important?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, not a sexual dysfunction
Biased against asexuals? Let me count the ways
Asexuality in history, popular culture, psychiatry, and everyday life
So long, compulsory sexuality! See ya, Viagra! Asexuality is here
For asexuals, gays, and lesbians, adolescent romance is especially depressing
Asexualities: First ever collection of scholarly essays
The boldest new idea about sex
That’s so aromantic!
People who are aromantic: Are they targets of bigotry?
Are monogamous relationships really better?
Satisfied? Jealous? On deciding not to be monogamous
Is polyamory bad for the children?
7 kinds of marriage – and 1 awesome alternative
Keeping marriage alive with affairs, asexuality, polyamory, and living apart
The proliferation of life choices and the resistance that follows
Kristen Bernhardt on the relationship escalator, relationship anarchy, and what it means to be agentically single
Elizabeth Brake on minimizing marriage and amatonormativity
Committing to celibacy: Is that really a thing?
Social scientists discover that single gays and lesbians exist
The truth about infidelity: How often romantic partners cheat on each other
Teen dating and sex hit record lows for recent decades
7 reasons why young people are having less sex
Teens Who Don’t Date: Socially Behind or Socially Skilled?
Dark adolescent romance
Pining for romance? Young adults who aren’t are doing better
Sex: Is it more of a problem for people who are single?
The many ways to be agentically single (guest post by Kristen Bernhardt)
What you miss by doing what everyone else does
Does sex really matter? Or, why do so many social scientists only study romantic relationships?
PT blogger answers my questions about sex, single parenting, Steve Pinker, and stupidity
60 sex-relevant terms you may not know – and why you should