In research on stereotypes of single people, my colleagues and I found that other people believe that single people are lonelier than married people, and that they become even lonelier as they get older. In fact, though, there is no evidence from longitudinal research that getting married makes people less lonely, and there is evidence that getting married makes people more insular.
Here are some of my writings on loneliness. You will not find the usual story lines about loneliness here. There are way too many misconceptions out there and it is time to debunk them.
Will you be less lonely if you get married? There is no evidence for that
Single People Aren’t to Blame for the Loneliness Epidemic
Escape from loneliness: Is marriage the answer?
No partner, no worries: New study of psychological health (loneliness, depression, and stress)
Single and lonely? The truth may be exactly the opposite
Is living alone the unlikely answer to loneliness?
Maybe it is the exclusion that hurts
The pain of being excluded because you are single
Almost 30: the hardest time to be single?
Vulnerable single people and resilient single people
Are Americans really becoming more lonely?
Are we less lonely than we’ve been in decades?
Are Americans becoming more and more isolated?
The loneliness panic
Misconceptions about loneliness
Singles in society and in science (evidence that people think singles are lonely)
Some people like being alone, confusing those who are panicked about a purported loneliness epidemic
Alone in the world or alone in solitude?
Why alone is not the same as lonely
Is solitude something you enjoy or a way of avoiding other people?
Mythbuster: How Going Solo takes lonely out of alone
When isolated people are not lonely and connected people are
We have it all wrong about lonely people
Who is the true avatar of the lonely crowd: The single person or the couple?
What is the opposite of loneliness?
Is there anything good about loneliness?
The happy loner
More questions and observations about loneliness
Adults who are not lonely have this in common
Now we know whether Facebook is making us lonely
Not lonely by design
I’ve been single all my life. I rarely get lonely
Mother of the ‘Old Maid’: Sound advice
Loneliness: Change your story about them, about you. Guest post by Tricia Parker
The stunning appeal of a story about a man who died alone
Why were so many people so drawn to a story of a man who died alone?
Who gets spooked by stories of single people dying alone?
ALSO CHECK OUT this collection of articles on solitude and this collection on living alone.
Alone: The badass psychology of people who like being alone