As if all of those singles-bashing “why are you still single” lists are not bad enough, there’s more. I just learned that there is a traveling road show addressing the question, “Why is everyone still single” – as if that’s a bad thing.
I have been writing about that attitude for years, starting with Singled Out. Below is a collection of links. In the first set, I take on all of those awful lists, mock other articles written in the same spirit as those singlist pieces, and point to some of the somewhat better approaches. In the second set, I highlight positive, affirming reasons for embracing single life. You can also check out my TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” as well as the book, The Best of Single Life
I. About those “Why You Are Single” Lists
“Why are you still single?” Here’s the best way to answer
The last ‘why are you single’ list you will ever need
No, I’m not married. Why do you ask? (with Joan DelFattore)
About those 27 wrong reasons you are single
‘Why are you single’ meets ‘why are you married’
3 condescending comments single people often hear, and what I say in response
“So sorry you’re still married”: New anniversary card greeting?
“So why have you never been married?” A case study in accidental singlism
It just hasn’t happened yet?
Why remarry? The best and worst answers and the set-up in the question
CNN: ‘Still single? What’s the matter with you?’
Top 8 reasons not to marry
Doomed to be married? 5 reasons wise people worry
II. Now let’s talk about some real, positive reasons for being single
The Best of Single Life
17 things no one ever told you about people who are single
The good reasons why some people are happy being single
More people than ever before are single – and that’s a good thing
What single women really want
The deep rewards of a deeply single life
Fear not: the advantages of people unafraid to be single
If you’ve been single all your life, you have a lot to be proud of
Singles value freedom more and get more happiness out of it
Two of the best things about living single
Doing all the work, but also having all the say
How to be happily single for life
Yes, we really do want lifelong singlehood
Unfathomable even to brilliant, kind, and open minds: The securely single
Single life as a ‘satisfying choice and a profound threat’
People just don’t know how to be single?
Dilbert creator discovers single life and writes new rules
3 great essays on single life
‘Liberty is a better husband’ and other perspectives on single life
I’m better off single. You might be, too.
How many people choose to be single?
More than sex: 11 meaningful facts about single people
How to become your true self
About those 23 ways single life is superior
Single in America: 6 cutting edge perspectives, 2 others
Single at heart: What do we know about it?
III. Marriage researchers: On the case for decades, but still not getting it about why some people don’t marry
A half-century of fewer people marrying: what explains it?
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