In writing about single life, one topic that comes up especially often is friendship. Below are links to some of my blog posts on (1) the importance of friendship; (2) whether single people get ditched when their friends marry; (3) making friends; (4) breaking up with friends; (5) how friendship is erased and distorted; and (6) other friendship themes.
I have also published a collection of my academic papers on friendship. It is called Friendsight: What Friends Know that Others Don’t.
(1) Importance of friendship
Why friendship is the key relationship of the 21st century
The new science of friendship
What makes friendship so special — especially now?
5 ways friends make us better and stronger
Worldwide, people are trending toward valuing friends relatively more, and family less
Success depends more on friendship skills than romantic ones
Finding “The One” Is Overrated: Emotionships Matter More
What friends know that others don’t
Step away from that spouse! Another take on the value of friends
Are we happiest when we are with our friends?
Your significant other can no longer be boxed in
How hero pilot’s wife reacted when she learned the plane had crashed
Amidst all the matrimania, the power of friendship endures
What matters is whether you matter to others
The new psychology of friendship
How to value our friends and everyone else’s
The meaning of ‘relationship’: Notes from a party
Families of choice are remaking America
(2) Do single people get ditched when their friends marry?
Shedding friends: Who does it and when does it happen?
Ditched by a friend who got married: Can you relate?
Do married people neglect their friends because they are so busy with their kids?
Slighting friends and family: Do couples become less couple-y over time
Gain a romantic partner, lose 2 friends?
Singles or couples: Who has more confidants? More diverse confidants?
Is it OK to have a couples-only club?
Are you guilty of friend jealousy, or a victim of it?
Dating, moving in, and losing contact with friends?
(3) Making friends
How do you make friends when you are single?
This book offers some good suggestions for making friends
7 ways to meet the locals and make friends — in your travels and in everyday life
Friendships: How to go deeper
Magical friendship-making moments
Finding a friend
Friendship doctor shares top tips for making friends
Singles’ guide to making friends: Guest post by Ellen Worthing
Can you make friends online?
Can you ride-share your way to friendship?
Not lonely by design
Now we know whether Facebook is making us lonely
Are the early years of single life the hardest? Approaching age 30
What’s really difficult about turning 30: It’s harder to make friends
Do you have fewer friends since turning 30? Look who else does, too
Did you choose to have fewer friends?
(4) Breaking up with friends
Breaking up with friends: Can you empathize?
Was your break-up treated dismissively?
(5) How friendship is erased, devalued, and distorted
Deleting a friend to spotlight a spouse
How some attachment theorists tried to disparage friendship — and got proven wrong
What’s wrong with this effusive account of a great experience?
Sex and the City: The magic show
Should your spouse be your best friend, and do single people count as people?
Did you recognize your friendship in ‘This Emotional Life’?
What’s not to like about a rave review? Missing the point of friendship and single life
What are friends for? Views from single and married life
The real mystery: Why don’t friendships get what they deserve?
Let’s value men’s friendships as much as their romantic relationships: Guest post by Kim Evensen
(6) Other friendship themes
If you aren’t in a relationship, who is ‘your person’?
Which personal milestones would you like to celebrate? (the example of friendship)
Can you tell what makes this love story so special?
Single people have more friends than married people do
Best friends forever, or only until your life changes?
Do you have a council of friends?
In Japan, can marriage be a hobby and friendship for real?
Reunited love – and I don’t mean the romantic kind!
Falling in and out of friendship
Friends and lovers: Is there a ‘knew it all along’ effect?
Men and women as friends – when one is gay or lesbian
Extraversion and the single person
Will mate-trimony make it fashionable to be single?
“Friendship in the time of love”
Why friends should have full legal rights as co-parents
Friendsight: What friends know that others don’t