Recently, a reader asked: “Is there, or will there, ever be anything for single men? Why is there so much about single women but hardly anything for single men?”
I agree. In the popular media, in blogs, and even in academic research, discussions of single life are overwhelmingly written about or by single women. In my blog writing, I first expressed my exasperation in the post,
But what about single men?
In Singled Out, I included separate chapters on single men and single women. Much of what I wrote in the other chapters is relevant to both single men and single women, as is much of what I write on my blogs.
I. Some of my posts have been specifically (though not always exclusively) about single men. Here are a few examples:
How living alone will transform men
The happy bachelor
Four single men: All hetero, approaching 40, living together for 18 years
Let’s hear it for the guys
Men, women, single, married: Who really exercises more?
Single forever: Stories and insights from gay men
Sashaying solo into the White House state dinner
I never knew his name
Single Men Have Good Hearts
II. Too often, when I am writing about single men, it is because some inaccurate claim has made its way into the media and I want to correct the record. For example:
Why men stay single: What no one is telling you
Actual newspaper headline: ‘Married men better men’
Naughty or nice? Single men and married men
NY Times asks about naughty and nice single and married men
Want to critique this claim published in the Atlantic magazine?
Does marriage civilize men?
Do married men really get promoted fastest?
Do men become more generous after marrying?
Those Pitied, Mocked, Envied Years Between the Late Teens and Late Twenties: What Are They Really About? [see the section on Guyland]
Don’t just marry — marry YOUNG!
Get married or get pummeled!
The leap from a little bit married to the whole thing: Do men and women differ?
The escalating war against single men: What’s it about?
III. I have hosted some guest posts written by single men. Here are a few of them:
Meet the man who wrote the book on happy bachelors
The challenging and fulfilling life of a single man in India: Guest post by Bhaumik Shah
Let’s value men’s friendships as much as their romantic relationships: Guest post by Kim Evensen
Embracing single life: Guest post by Elliott Lewis
Single in the Navy, Part 1: Guest post by Roger Morris
Single in the Navy, Part 2: Guest post by Roger Morris
IV. I like to mock the silly or cruel singlist things that people say about single men. I am always amused when the media is shocked to find that their stereotypes about single men are untrue.
Serial killer is married and Nightline is shocked!
Single man with cats is in the news: Cue the innuendo!
“So Why Have You Never Been Married?”: A Case Study in Accidental Singlism
Break my heart, former Team 6 Seal
Married man’s burden: Charles Murray’s prescription for a better America
I will continue to try to keep single men in the conversation about single life. As always, if you see something relevant that I should be critiquing or discussing, let me know. I always appreciate your tips.
Maybe also of interest:
GENDER DIFFERENCES IN LIVING SINGLE, MARRYING, DIVORCING, BEREAVEMENT, REMARRYING, LIVING ALONE, AND LIVING APART TOGETHER